I grow up in a society where pleasing other people is priority number one, being perfect in anything we do is a must. I remember when I was in primary school, having arguments with teacher or even with friends is a big no, while being liked by teachers is a desirable thing. Even some parents tried their best to be friend with teachers in the hope their kids become the favourite in the class. For us, making mistakes is a big sin and must be avoided at any cost. This environment made me grow up as a person who cares too much on how people are thinking about me.
As I step out to outside world, I found lots of things are not working that way, and in some of the things, I have to learn it the hard way. I started questioning, why I have to please everybody anytime, why I have to be always right, why I can't have different argument with other people and defend mine, why would I care if some people dislike me or even hate me. Some people will like me if I slave my ass to help them do some donkey work or absorb their mistakes, and they will hate me to death if I keep doing the right thing by pushing them to do things in the correct way, sometimes no choice but nasty way. In fact, I don't need everybody to like me, I only need them to respect me.
After all, what matters the most is I put my best effort to achieve the goals and learn from every mistake that I made, this way, I could grow to be better each and every day.
you go girl!
ReplyDeleteyou don't need to please anyone ven , if they are really your friend who genuinely care about your well being they will understand if you disagree with them =D