Recently I had discussion with a few friends regarding career vs. relationship and career vs. family. By the time there are conflicts between the two, guys will put their career at first priority while at the same time they will expect their girls to put relationship or family first. For example, when a girl got an overseas opportunity, if they guy thinks it's not suitable for him, he won't go and expect the girl to forgo the opportunity as well. On the other way round, if the guy is the one having prospective opportunity overseas, he will expect the girl to leave everything and follow him. And it is not only the guy, the whole society expect it to be this way.
Some guys clearly state that he is the family-leader-to-be, hence, it is OK for his girl to follow him. Some guys use a softer way to convince the girl to follow him. But deep down in their minds, they never think of give in their choice. Some girls struggle to get their aspirations heard and fail, some girls consciously and voluntarily opt to sacrifice, maybe because of love, maybe because the society deem it as the right move. The result is only one, the girl follows the guy.
The moment I heard about this I felt hit. Why? Are our education easily earned? Are our career easily built? Are guys' careers are careers while ours are not? Helloooooo, the effort we put is not less than guys! Sometimes we even put more effort than guys. I used to believe I always can compete with guys in par, but sadly, the reality is not like that. This society is still guy-centric society. However, I'm not going to give up, I will fight until the furthest I can go.
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